I’ve been asked several questions lately and thought I’d answer them in a post.

If you have a question you are just dying to ask me, feel free to ask. I really don’t mind answering any questions that I can.

Question 1: You were saying all you had to verify Tracy's pregnancy was a document. What, if anything, did Tracy have to show/provide re: the pregnancy in order to have that document made?

The “pregnancy confirmation” is one of the first documents the agency receives from birth mothers to verify a pregnancy. The second document would be medical records, such as a prenatal doctor appointment and ultrasound that shows a viable pregnancy.

This “pregnancy confirmation” basically states that Tracy was given a pregnancy test and it was positive.

Thanks to my father’s wisdom, he insisted that we should not commit financially to this adoption until we had an ultrasound to prove a viable pregnancy.

This is why we pushed to get an ultrasound at the crisis center (instead of waiting for Tracy’s Medicaid to come through) and why we were able to learn the truth so much faster than we would have had we just waited for Tracy’s Medicaid coverage to be approved in order to have an ultrasound.

Question 2: How could Tracy get a pregnancy confirmation document if she wasn’t pregnant? Did the agency just give her one based on what she said?

There are two possible scenarios: 1) Tracy was actually pregnant at a time, but then miscarried. or 2) Tracy was never pregnant to begin with.

Truth is, we will probably never know.

My gut instinct is that she was pregnant to begin with, but miscarried. Maybe that is just me not wanting to believe that she scammed us from the start.

But the reality is that there is a possibility that maybe she wasn’t ever pregnant and somehow was able to fake a “pregnancy confirmation”. Dave told me there are ways she could have done this.

Again, who knows? We probably won’t ever know and I am totally fine with that. It is what it is.

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that right now, Tracy is not pregnant. 

The “pregnancy confirmation” is not done by the agency.

Question 3: I have to wonder if she was trying to play this game even when y’all were getting together with Little Bug. 

My gut instinct on this is that if Tracy was pregnant and miscarried, I do believe she had already lost the baby before we went to the zoo.

And again, I am totally fine with that. She is the one that has to live with the fact that she deceived us.

I am forever grateful for that time we had together at the zoo. I never got a picture of Little Bug with her birth mother after her birth. I always regretted that. I am so thankful I have a picture of Little Bug with her birth mother now. I feel it is very important to have this for Little Bug when she starts asking questions about her adoption in the future.

Question 4: I don’t understand why they wouldn’t give her an ultrasound for those reasons? Wouldn’t they want to do one to check on things if she was supposedly having bleeding?

The Crisis Pregnancy Center’s policy is to not give an ultrasound to any woman who has had ectopic pregnancies in the past or who has had bleeding with the current pregnancy. The reason for this is because the center gives ultrasounds free of charge and they cannot have women coming in to get a free “check-up” on their baby to make sure things are okay if they have experienced bleeding.

The purpose of the Crisis Pregnancy Center is to help women make a good choice for their baby when they find themselves in a crisis situation.

When we learned that Tracy wouldn’t have an ultrasound by a medical provider for as long as a month and a half from now, we asked our lawyer if the Crisis Pregnancy Center would see Tracy so that she could have an ultrasound to verify that there was a heartbeat in there!

I thank God that the Crisis Pregnancy Center was willing to work with us so we could discover the truth long before we would have had we waited for Tracy’s Medicaid coverage to come through.

Tracy knew what she had to say to be denied an ultrasound with the crisis center and last Monday morning she expected to tell me they wouldn’t scan her and we’d leave with no ultrasound and she could keep playing her game until the Medicaid came through.

Little did she know, God had a plan of His own to help me get to the bottom of her deception that very day.

I praise God for His Protective Hand in all this.

- Elaine